Once the decision to divorce has been made, determining how to go about it is the next big question. The process you select will set the stage for not only the divorce experience, but how you heal and co-parent far into the future.
Litigation is not only expensive, but it can add stress and time to an already difficult process.
Mediation offers a more cooperative method that puts you in control of your settlement agreement and can set both parties up for future success. The mediator assists the parties in negotiation by facilitating discussions that allow them to work out their own solutions to a settlement. It is a confidential, voluntary process that requires both parties come to the negotiation table willingly.
Being a voluntary process doesn’t mean it won’t be difficult. Divorce is wrought with emotions such as anger, betrayal, hurt and fear. You may be grieving the loss of your marriage and will go through cycles just as a person may grieve someone’s death. It’s normal. A trained divorce mediator will allow space for those emotions while guiding you through business-like negotiations to reach a settlement that works for everyone. Putting in the effort to reach an agreement together is tough work, and it takes courage.
During the mediation process we will discuss child-related issues to create your parenting plan (if applicable), go through a financial due diligence process to be sure everyone fully understands the financial situation, discuss and determine asset/debt division, and review income/expenses to finalize any support agreements. My mediation team includes attorneys who will provide the Marital Settlement Agreement, court documents and filing service, reducing some of the stress you might otherwise feel in this time.
It is important to choose a divorce process that is right for you and your unique situation. I am happy to visit with you and answer any questions about mediation to determine if it’s the right solution for you.